What Is All Of This Coaching Nonsense?

Do you really need a coach? Coaching is a hot topic these days. There are business coaches, life coaches, exercise coaches, health coaches, and the list goes on. There are even social media coaches. Not the kind that film themselves relentlessly babbling on Facebook Live telling you how great their life is while trying to round up more clients, but  the kind that teach you how to build a social media platform for your business. You could have a coach for just about anything in our culture. But the question is: Do you really need one?

If I were to ask you “Do you believe you could truly achieve your full potential on your own?” What would you say? If you were completely honest with yourself you would have to answer no. Think about all of the times in your youth you had a coach. Maybe it was for sports, maybe it was music lessons (yes, the person that taught you piano or guitar was a coach), maybe it was for the debate team or local theater. The people who taught you all of those things are coaches. If you were left to figure those things out on your own, would you have been able to do it well? Absolutely not.

There’s a concept I learned when I was young in the fire service. I’ve also heard it used in military circles and others as well. It goes something like this: “You don’t rise to the occasion; you default to your level of training.” I interpret this to mean, that when the pressure is on and you have to perform, you won’t receive some magical powers to get you through and make you look like a superhero. You default to your level of knowledge and your ability to apply it through your skills and practice

Could you have attained your ability to _____________ all by yourself? You can insert almost any task into that line. Cook, clean, work, train, hunt, fish, anything you want. Some of these things could be self-taught to a small extent. But to maintain even an average level of proficiency you would have to have at least some advice or tips from someone who understands it better than you do. This is where a coach comes in. A proper coach will have experience and training on both the matters in which they coach and also how to coach. If they are good at what they do you will be able to see the knowledge and experience pouring out of them. 

Is it really worth it to pay for a coach? The answer is yes if you were to actually evaluate the situation. Over the years I have paid for a number of coaching services because I truly believe in it. This includes everything from training to business to archery. Let’s use archery for an example. Private 1-1 or 1-2 archery lessons are expensive. But if you learned something in those lessons that made you a more proficient hunter or competitive archer for the rest of your life, would it be worth paying for a few sessions? The answer is a resounding yes. This same principle goes for everything else. If you paid a few hundred or even several thousand dollars for a little bit of business coaching and were able to permanently improve your business, the return on that investment would be exponential.

Most people struggle with the quick fix mentality and availability of information in our culture. They say things like, “Why would I pay for that, I can just go watch a video on how to do it”. This is true in some cases. This may work for something like fixing your car (assuming someone has already taught you how to use the tools). In the case of correcting your archery form, the video thing doesn’t apply. The same would hold true for that 10 or 15lbs of belly fat you haven’t been able to shake off for the last few years. Watching a video won’t help you. So whatever you’re struggling with, go get a coach to help you work through it. Find a good one, develop a plan, and work the plan. It’s that easy. The process could completely change your life.


– Jared Mielke

Jared is a husband, father, coach, and outdoorsman. He was born and raised in Central Florida where he grew up hunting, fishing and playing on the water. Jared began work as a Firefighter immediately following high school. While in the fire service he worked as a FF/EMT, Instructor, and Fire Officer. The time at the FD gave him the ability to pursue working with people as a trainer and coach on his days off. Jared and his family recently settled in Northern Idaho after a brief stint in Tennessee and have started a Health Coaching Practice and hope to open a small training facility in the near future. Their goal is to impact people’s lives with both healthy and positive changes.

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